Sex in a long-term relationship here are things to expect after your relationship has lasted for a long time.
During your youth, premature-age when you weren’t having much or any sex, you might have thought about adults and married people, getting the notion that they must be getting so much sex, doing it everytime and catching orgasm after orgasm on daily.
Now of course, you should have perceived, as you develop mentally, sex does not play out that way. Even in the honeymoon phase of a relationship/marriage, sex ain’t too rampant.
And it gets even more downplayed even more once the relationship get to the auto-pilot mode.
Partners understands their bodies better after long time in a relationship [Credit Madamenoire]
Most especially if it’s been long since you and your partner are together, so, Sex in a long-term relationship – Here are things to expect.
1. Less Quantity, More quality
Sex usually goes from three times in a day to a more lesser pace and frequency over time. It then turns less of an awkward adventure to something more closely familiar over time.
In general, you could have sex less often the more when you’re together, which isn’t wrong, but make sure you’re both still doing the stuffs that drive your partner crazy—and discovering new ones.
The goal will be to steadily get the quality higher, even if the quantity goes down or not on the long run. Just make it lit to your best.
2. Times might demand you plan for sex
There are possibilities that partners become really busy and get their heads choked up in a whole lot of other stuff which takes sex to the least of their priority list.
As long as you’re understanding and not too rigid about it, it’s not a terrible way to go. Honestly. And we have written about all that here.
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3. Distance can create the wanted sparks
After a sometime, sparks will no longer easily come by. The newness of the whole thing, will no longer be there and creating fireworks will need to become an intentional thing unlike how it shows at the beginning of the relationship.
You now see why you need to give yourselves some space to miss each other.
Being attached at the hip might sour your relationship, as counterintuitive as it seems.
Staying away on a business trip or on a solo holiday means you will come back craving for your partner with the urge that might wasn’t there if they were sleeping by you on all day and night.
4. Get a different adventure!
Not experimenting and trying out new stuffs, montonoy sets in and that isn’t what you want in your sex life.
Go away from the vanilla and throw in a dash of chocolate again and again. Life ends too short to have less variety. Just say no to boring, one-way-street sex!
5. Hit it on special occasions, there should be an explosion.
Newjobs, Birthdays, holidays, anniversaries… these special events that brings the opportunity to kiss it better and do it differently. Just hit it!